Its 2:30 am in the morning and I have gotten back (a while ago) from a friend from work’s surprise birthday party.
It was lots of fun and I for one, had a good time.
Anyways, I realised something about myself and people in general today.
Most of the party, (actually for all part of it), we were just sitting around in a living room and talking (there were 16 of us and her folks).
Maximum of the conversations that took place involved the entire group with one or the other person narrating a joke or an incident.
At one particular point of time, we were made to go in order and narrate one joke, incident or just amuse the large gathering of people.
Anyways, firstly, what I noticed about people was that listening to what people have to say (or not) at a party or a social discussion tells a lot about them – if you notice that is.
The second thing that I realized (about myself) is that I tend to observe people a lot and am sub consciously analyzing them.
I dug a little deeper (into my conscience) and this is what happens.
When a person is going to speak or narrate something or do anything at all, you form a sort of prediction of what he is going to do or how he is going to do it – depending on all the knowledge you have of the person.
Depending on how much the person sways from your prediction, you assess them and fine tune your understanding of the person.
If your prediction was spot on, you kinda know that you know the person decently well.
I probably haven’t even gotten close to the level at which I can be dead on right about a person, but I feel that I am getting there slowly – but steadily.
Just observing how people behave in a social group, what they say things, how they say it, how much effort they are applying, how conscious they are tells loads about a person – and I just felt that I got to know almost all of the people present there – a lot more even though I hardly spoke to many of them.
The point I am trying to make here is that its is sometimes more interesting in observing the reactions of people to a particular interesting situation than observing the situation itself.
Like for example, I have caught myself (and am very disturbed by the fact) that many a times, I actually observe how people react when say, a very pretty girl walks into the room instead of looking at her.
Very disturbing, I know.
But right now, at 2:45 a.m – I am pretty much at my twilight zone and really cannot say that I am talking sense …
So you cannot hold anything said on this particular post against me.
So there! :)